Holly-weird is a state of mind.

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Live at Sabor y Cultura 14 Jan 2012


Three years ago in the summertime, I took my first tentative babysteps into the spotlight on a stage in a tiny hole in the wall called the Stone Bar in Hollywood's Thai town.  I had just meant to be a fly on the wall, but a fellow musician, Jen Bloom, convinced me to go up and sing.  What have you got to lose?  After some prodding, I put my name on the list.

I had just finished a song and I thought it was good a one, so I wrote the lyrics on a napkin to make sure I remembered them.  I crumpled and un-crumpled the napkin as I checked and re-checked the lyrics.

Finally, Joseph Eid, the master of ceremonies for the Open Mic at the Stone Bar, called my name.  Looking back at the supportive faces of Jen, and three of my best friends, Cristina, Karoline, and Juliane, I took the long walk past barstools, tables, and guitar cases toward the blue glow of the spotlights.

Wearing flip-flips, cut-off jean shorts, and a pink and black flannel, I stood naked on the stage.  Except, any nervousness I had felt on the walk up there had dissipated.  I finally had an audience. 

"I only have one song, "I said, and then I sang it.  It was a song called, "What lies inside."  It had come to me in the shower, which has a glass door on it, a motif you can hear in the song.  I don't have a recording of that, but I'll get one soon.

Anyway, at the end, people clapped and whistled and I felt on top of the world.  That was the beginning of something very cool.  A gifted musician himself, Joseph has this incredible magnetism for talent and I've been blessed to have met and played with amazing people over the last few years, many thanks to Joseph.

Last night, I played some songs at Sabor y Cultura on Hollywood Boulevard as part of a Singer-Songwriter circle, also one of Joseph's brainchildren.   In this little room, splashed with pink, purples, and oranges, and lights just a little too bright, six singer-songwriters came together to share our original music.

Joseph sang one tune inspired by the movie, "Melancholia," musing about what he might do to prepare for the end if a mysterious planet were hurtling towards the earth.

Mark Phillips, who was part of the original Stone Bar crew, whose sound and style registers somewhere between Johnny Cash and John Prine, sang couple traveling songs about trains that had the same effect as some really good pot.

Rob Larkin told us a musical story of the time when he and his friends went down to Mexico and barely made it out alive, as well as a song about seeing crazy people on Hollywood Boulevard, and sometimes, just sometimes, feeling right out there with them.

Brett Dallas Mondie from Hall River, North Carolina, had a vague resemblance to Dashboard Confessional  and sang songs of undying love and of uprooting his life from the east coast and heading west.

Samantha Tart sang songs about love and loss like an angel.

And, then, it was my turn.  I swallowed the lump in my throat, and went for it. 

Mahalo :)





Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Ski Lessons: The Reformation of an Alpine Trainwreck

Over Christmas, I got a chance to go skiing for the first time in about  four years.  Just to give you an idea of my track record, on my first ski trip, I basically fell/shot down at dangerously high speeds each hill. On my third to last ski trip, at Mont Tremblant in Quebec, I had to be driven down the mountain on a snow-mobile. 
(Ok, it didn't look like that.)

My second to last ski trip to Northstar at Lake Tahoe was a real doozy. 



Now, if I had started on the bunny trail, I would have been ok, but I decided to follow my two seasoned snowboarding friends down a black diamond.  As I careened down the hill, praying for dear life/battling nausea, it occured to me that I failed to put the loop of my pole around my wrist.

I then dropped said pole.  Of course, the next logical step was to make myself fall on the otherside of the mountain, take off my skis, and try to walk up.  Needless to say, a few very futile and sweaty minutes later, I walked down the slope, skis in hand, thigh deep in snow.

BUT, I was not to be deterred.  I agreed on another run, this time on a blue square.  I could handle that.  But, at the last second, the guys took a turn down a powder trail and naturally, I followed. Within about 10 feet of the opening, I was on my ass, buried in snow and the guys were long gone.  So, off came the skis again, and this time, I trudged WAIST deep toward what I thought might be the right direction.  This consisted of taking 15 steps and then leaning back to take a rest on top of the snow for five minutes.

(Ha...I wish.)

 Luckily, after 20 minutes of this, I ended up on a slope and a friendly ski patrolman helped me get my skis back on and I made it to the bottom of the hill.


(This is my mad face.)

And, that concluded the skiing portion of my ski trip.  I spent the rest of the day defrosting by the fire pit.

So, I will admit that I've been avoiding the slopes in recent years, but when I went up to visit my grandparents, they said their only wish was to have the whole family go up to a nearby ski resort in western New York called Peak n' Peak.


It was time to face my fears.

This time, I started out right.  On the bunny slopes. Easy breezy.

But of course, having two younger brothers, I was not to get away with staying there all day.



All the green circles were closed, so my only choice was the blue square.  My heart started to pound and I got that throw-uppy feeling again.   I set my sights on the bottom of the hill and blindly willed myself to get down there. All of my limbs and body each seemed to be partying to their own DJ.  I was flailing all over, but managed to keep my balance. 

But, all of a sudden, in the middle of the third or fourth try down the mountain on a particularly steep and icy patch of snow, I felt this compulsion to sing-talk to myself, "Shan, you got thisssss.  you got thissss." 

And then there was this shift.  I felt myself separate from the chaos and speed and vastness of the mountain scene surrounding me.  The different muscles in my body were no longer fighting to free themselves from one another, but were now working in tandem as I gave my full attention to each, single stride.  I became a well-oiled machine.



Instead of looking way down to the bottom of the mountain, I kept my sights only a few yards in front of me, but with a more relaxed gaze that allowed me to keep the rest of the picture in soft-focus.

I didn't need to fixate on the end goal because I simply trusted that I would eventually get there.  I was no longer hurdling down the mountain because it wasn't the end that was pulling me, it was the next small step.

The next thing I knew, I was cruising down the hill and toward the finish line with the greatest of ease.  When I met my brothers at the bottom, I even did a little hockey stop. ( I am not above showing off.)


Even my mom noticed a difference.  "I've never seen you go down the hill with such control before."  I just smiled and nodded.  I saved the lengthy self-analysis for this post......

I ended the day taking on the black diamonds with the deftness of a veteran skiier.  Granted those NY Appalachians are no Rockies, but with my new method of taking it stride by stride, I feel that I can tackle any mountain.


And my grandparents were happy too!


I don't think I have to go into the metaphor on getting through life that's in here...

I want to hear your stories!

What are some of your ah-ha moments about getting through seemingly life threatening situations that ended up being not that bad?

Mahalo :)





Monday, January 2, 2012

Five...Well, Three rules for a Happy Life

This Christmas, my mom gave every single member of my family a copy of "Shatner Rules", William Shatner's latest auto-biography. It was an actually surprisingly hilarious octogenarian's look back on his fabulous life. It's filled with anecdotes ranging from Hitch-hiking around the U.S., riding into his Friar's Club Roast on a Horse, and getting his underwear stolen by a crazed fan at a Trekkie convention. Throughout are sprinkled the rules that he followed to make him the awesome guy that he is today.

 My opinion of William Shatner has increased significantly since I read his book, but when I think of what a happy life looks like to me, William Shatner is not the person who comes to mind.

 My grandmother, Esther Joy, or Tutu, as I call her will be 89 in February. I know it will be 89, because in 2003, I had to talk my way onto 2 airplanes and get picked up by my dad the next state over because I missed my flight to her 80th birthday party after a few two many red cups full of jungle juice at a party the night before. But, I digress...

 I happened to be reading "Shatner Rules" while lying awake on an air-mattress in my grandparents' condo in Western PA. I looked around at all the photos of friends and loved ones and clippings of family successes and poetry and art, and it dawned on me. Why had I never, in all of my years, asked my grandmother what her rules for a happy life are?

 So, the next morning, I asked her, "What are 5 rules you've followed in your life that have helped you be happy?" She had to sit down for that one, but once she did, the first three came pretty quickly.

1. Be there.

2. Go with the flow.

3. Don't sweat it. Any of it.

Now, commencement speeches, motivational audio-books, and embroidered pillows have been telling us this forever, but, despite many of those luminaries and motivational speakers who always seem to have overcome anger-management problems, suffered through divorces and estrangements, conquered substance abuse, climbed over everyone to the top of their fields, or cheated death to be able to say these things with such certainty, Tutu has just lived her life that way.

It's all about being present, saying yes to the opportunities that come along, and having the faith and patience to know everything will be ok. When she graduated from high school, College wasn't even in the cards for her. She worked at the telephone company. But when a family friend tipped her off to a nursing scholarship, she said, "Yes," applied, and got it, which sent her into a whole new direction that she never could have anticipated.

When my grandfather, whom she had met while in nursing school, asked her to marry him, right before shipping off to the Philippines during the Korean War, she said, "Yes." A week later they were married, they spent their honeymoon driving cross country, and then he shipped off and he didn't see her for a year. But, she was patient, and then took six different planes from Buffalo, NY to Manila to be with my grandfather. The two of them have been married for over six decades and remain best friends to this day.

Tutu listens without judgment. Her advice is always, "Follow your heart." Never any instructions or prescriptions, just "Trust."

She has friends that would do anything for her. When we arrived at her house for Christmas, her dining room table was littered with Christmas-y tins full of home-made fudge and cookies and sponge candy that friends that she's had for 50 and 60 years are still bringing to her.

Even now, when she's not as mobile as she once was---she won't be taking any planes to southeast Asia anytime soon---she finds Joy in the most simple of pleasures, like white wine with ice-cubes and keeping tabs on the boats on Lake Erie from her balcony.

 After the first three rules, Tutu had gotten distracted and I thought she had forgotten about the question, but after a little conversation with my brother who was tidying up the living room and commenting on the good smell coming from the kitchen making breakfast, she pointed at me and said, "Oh, I thought of the last two rules!":

4. Make sure to have big kids and grandkids who can cook and clean for you.

5. Always wait til everyone else gets up before you get out of bed.

I had to laugh at that. Oh how I wish I could follow those rules right now... But, if you think about it, those aren't so much rules as the rewards you reap by following the first 3. Tutu's no William Shatner, but if you follow her rules, I think you'll like what happens.